NBVite: Enjoy Being Single

Very often we tend to focus only on the disadvantages of our current phase or stage in life rather than to appreciate its merits and use it to attain some level of comfort and satisfaction as we wait and prepare for the next level.

Being in a relationship or being married is a wonderful thing to happen to anyone who has come of age. But then, finding a partner and having that conviction in yourself that he/she is the right person can be very challenging. So people at some point, can easily get worried and frustrated in their search. You can easily become desperate and you might start questioning your singlehood.

I am not against relationships but against people's addiction and obsession to relationship and dating stuff that it ruins them of enjoying the first and best phase of their lives. I have seen as young as 13-15 year-old talking about boyfriend and sex. And I wondered, what does she know about dating.


For any relationship or marriage to last, it requires constantly being committed to every single ingredient that defines the pair. So don't rush into it when you are not ready to handle all the responsibilities that comes with it.

There are many advantages to being single that can help you appreciate your current state, and stop looking at the negative aspects of it.

Firstly Freedom and independence: Being single means you have more freedom, you answer to no one. You think and plan your life straight without unnecessary influence. You are free to go anywhere anytime without anyone calling to ask you those ‘WH’ questions, you won’t be afraid of been reckless with your mobile phones. It allows for spontaneity in your life.

Another advantage is time: you gain more control over your time when you are single. We live in a busy society, and time matters a lot in relationships. We have seen couples fall apart for not having enough time to spend with each other, maybe as a result of work and other commitments. When you are single, you may have more time for yourself and things you would like to do, you can set your own schedule without having to consult or seek the approval of your other half.

In addition to freedom, and time, relationships also require money and a lot of it. Being single gives you full financial freedom. You will be in control of where every penny you spend goes. Guys, think of the amount you’ll save by not having to buy her top-ups/credits, pay for dinners, BBM subscriptions, movies, and buying all kinds of present for birthdays, valentine’s day, Xmas etc. Being single may also make it easier save money for the future.

Also being single allows you to stabilize your emotions. When a person is in a relationship, especially at its early stage, your emotions can go completely out of control if care is not taken. Your mind can go a mile in a minute (even while in the office, classroom or church service), constantly thinking things like, does he/she love me? Did I say the right thing? When next should I visit, call or text? What is he/she doing right now? etc.  Being single means that you won’t have to worry about going through a heart-wrenching breakup.

 Last but not the least, being single can give you a deeper awareness of who you really are, not someone as defined by relationship experiences. I discovered that during the initial stages of relationships you try to make yourself look as good as possible to impress the other person and often find yourself doing or saying things you normally wouldn’t do or say. Being single allows you be yourself and develop who you really are.

Be a confident single man or woman. We will all get married at some point, but in the mean time there are other things to get on with: there are places to visit, qualifications to obtain, positions to fill and money to be made. Enjoy being SINGLE while it lasts.....Happy continuous searching and have a great WEEKend

Nelly